Frequently Asked Questions
What is domestic violence?
Domestic violence is a pattern of intimidation, assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior perpetrated by an intimate partner or relative against another. It is an epidemic that crosses all cultural barriers. Domestic violence is often accompanied by emotional abuse and controlling behaviors and is a part of a systematic pattern of power and control. The results of domestic violence are not only increasingly more lethal, but also generational. As our children learn behaviors that are abusive and controlling, the incidents of domestic violence can truly last a lifetime.
While every situation is unique and not all abusive relationships look like this, the wheel below depicts many of the patterns that often occur in abusive relationships. If you identify with any of these patterns, please call CADA to speak with an advocate.
What is sexual assault?
Sexual assault is any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient. Falling under the definition of sexual assault are sexual activities such as forced sexual intercourse, forcible sodomy, child molestation, incest, fondling, and attempted rape.
Is it considered rape if it's within a marriage?
Yes, sexual assault is any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient.
What kind of warning signs would a potential abuser show?
Although there is not a formula that fits each abuser, there are many red flags that abusers have in common. Most importantly, domestic violence centers around one person wanting to have power and control over the other person. Domestic violence can be physical, but can also be emotional, psychological, financial, sexual, or some combination of those. If you think you may be in an abusive situation, please call CADA to speak to an advocate. CADA provides education about specific warning signs and information that may help you identify if domestic violence is a part of your relationship.
What can I do to help a friend/family member that is being abused?
Encourage them to call CADA or an agency in their area if they live outside of Island County. If they aren’t comfortable calling, you can call to speak with an advocate about how you can help. All calls are confidential.
Are CADA services confidential?
Yes, with the exception that we are by law a mandatory reporting agency. That means that if a client discloses abuse or neglect of a child or vulnerable adult, or if they are threatening to harm themselves or another person, we would notify the appropriate agency.
Does CADA provide services to women only?
No, services are available to women, men and children.
How much do services at CADA cost?
All of CADA services are free.
What does a CADA advocate do?
CADA advocates provide advocacy-based counseling. This means they provide support and education about issues of domestic and sexual violence. The primary focus is client safety and developing tools for empowerment and autonomy, working with clients to identify their needs, and provide them with information about and referrals to local service agencies. Advocates are not here to tell you what you should do; rather they are there to support you. Advocates are not therapists.
What kind of legal services does CADA provide?
Advocates help victims understand their legal rights and options, assist with protective orders and police reports, and support them through the criminal justice system. Advocates may accompany victims to hearings related to domestic violence and/or sexual assault. Legal advocates are not attorneys and cannot give legal advice. CADA does not provide assistance with divorce, parenting plans or custody issues.
Where can I get free legal assistance?
A statewide toll-free telephone hotline called CLEAR , Coordinated Legal Education, Advice and Referral, is available Monday-Friday from 9:15 am to 12:15 pm. Persons needing legal assistance should call 1-888-201-1014. During the phone call you will be screened and evaluated to determine income eligibility for their free service.
Can CADA help someone who does not speak English?
Yes, we can help anyone that does not speak English. We do not discriminate.
Does CADA provide emergency shelter?
Yes. We have a shelter for women and children who have been involved in intimate partner domestic violence.
What if my question is still not answered?
You can look at our resources tab or call CADA and we can help.